Will You Be A Doer?

How do I know I am supposed to make it work with my spouse?

Abide in the same calling. "Let every man abide in the same calling wherin he was called." 1 Cor 7:20   Do you know God is calling you?  God is telling us to stay as you are where he has called you. Are you married?  Have a family?  Here are his instructions:



"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled. And let not the husband put away his wife.  But to the rest speak I, not the Lord; If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.  And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him." 1 Cor 7:10

So you're spouse is not pleased with you right now?  Your spouse would rather be anywhere than with you at this moment.  This scripture does not excuse you from winning your spouse back!  If you just throw your hands up and say, "my spouse is done with me, he doesn't want to dwell with me, the Bible says I should just let him go" then you are taking the easy way out. Chances are, you've been a hearer and not a doer of the Word.  And most importantly, you have not love.


"The sluggard will not plow by reason of the cold; therefore shall he beg in harvest, and have nothing."  Proverbs 20:4

The above scripture references the lazy man who won't get up and work because the conditions are too extreme.  This man is 100% certain not to eat. He wont plow to plant seed.  If he doesn't plant seed, he wont grow food to harvest.  If you put forth no effort to win your husband back, you will not win him back. 100% guarantee.  Think it's better to wait for the "ideal time"?  Negative.  Now is the time.  

I wonder if the sluggard above thought it would be better for him to sit inside and pray for God to grow seed for him.  Could God do it?  Most certainly.  But we know that laziness is not too fond in God's eyes. So many people are fooled that we should just sit and pray.  "Let go and let God" is the popular phrase.  Yes, we should ABSOLUTELY pray.  And then get off our behinds and be a doer.   
"But be ye DOERS OF THE WORD, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if any be a hearer of the word and not a doer he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass (mirror); For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was.  But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therin, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, THIS MAN SHALL BE BLESSED IN HIS DEED." James 1:22-25

Ok, so what should we be doing?  Below is love put into action: 

"Charity SUFFERETH LONG, and is KIND; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up. Doth not behave itself unseemingly, SEEKETH NOT HER OWN, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;  rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, ENDURETH ALL THINGS.  Charity never faileth." 1 Cor 13:2
But before all these things are mentioned in this passage, the Bible says that if you have all the gifts and can do many things; If you have all the faith in the world but have not charity, you have nothing.  Your gifts are useless, your motives are bad if you have not love/charity.  If you don't know what charity/love looks like, you just read it above. Read it again.

So my question is, are you going to be a doer?  Are you going to be long suffering for your spouse?  Are you going to put his needs over your own?  Are you going to be kind even when he is not?  Are you going to bear his burden?  Are you going to endure the hard times for your spouse?

If your answer is no, then you are merely a hearer and not a doer.  And like the sluggard, you will beg in harvest.

If you have realized you have been a hearer and not a doer....and want to change....there is hope!  It doesn't matter how long it's been or how far gone you think your spouses heart is.  IT IS NOT TOO LATE. Start doing.  Plow like you've never plowed before. It may be hard but "In all labor there is profit"  Proverbs 14:23  Just because you don't see the results of your kindness and long suffering on the outside, doesn't mean your spouse's heart isn't stirring inside.

You may have heard "it takes two".  You may think the other has to be open to making it work.  That is not true as I am here to personally testify.  It takes one person to get the ball rolling.  God's love is irresistible.

Has your spouse seen you be a doer of God's love?  Show them today.