Will You Be A Doer?

How do I know I am supposed to make it work with my spouse?

Abide in the same calling. "Let every man abide in the same calling wherin he was called." 1 Cor 7:20   Do you know God is calling you?  God is telling us to stay as you are where he has called you. Are you married?  Have a family?  Here are his instructions:

Who Are You Listening To?

So, you've made the decision to take back your unfaithful spouse.  You've told your friends and family.  I bet their reaction was less than encouraging.

Whether your friends or family be Christian or Non Christian is irrelevant.  If your own Pastor tells you that you are an idiot for taking your spouse back, turn around and walk the other way.  Do not entertain their ideas of marriage.

There is a scripture that is repeated twice that I've found so far.  And if it's repeated twice, it must be pretty important.

What Does Forgiveness Look Like?

This is specific to marriages.

I have heard many women say to me, "I have forgiven him".  Then a day or two later when the spouse has committed yet another offense against them, the same women bring up the same issues with hurt in their voice.  As if it's happening all over again.  

"He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth...."  Proverbs 17:9

Bold and underline that last part of this sentence!!

"He that repeateth a matter separateth...."

If you keep repeating the matter to your spouse, it means you have not forgiven.