Who Are You Listening To?

So, you've made the decision to take back your unfaithful spouse.  You've told your friends and family.  I bet their reaction was less than encouraging.

Whether your friends or family be Christian or Non Christian is irrelevant.  If your own Pastor tells you that you are an idiot for taking your spouse back, turn around and walk the other way.  Do not entertain their ideas of marriage.

There is a scripture that is repeated twice that I've found so far.  And if it's repeated twice, it must be pretty important.



"There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end therof are the ways of death." Proverbs 14:12

"There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end therof are the ways of death." Proverbs 16:25

Leaving your spouse may seem or even feel right, but it's not.
Where divorce is, death is.  Just around that corner is the path to death.  Bitterness, anger, hatred, seperation of families, etc..  You can't see 20 years down the road.  That path extends to your children.  And their children's children.  Everyone who has said "what's best for the kids" can't see that path because their personal feelings are blocking their view.   Chances are if you are contemplating divorce right now, you have never learned from you parents how to have a fulfilling marriage.  And if you haven't, you don't know how to have a fulfilling marriage.  So who will teach your children to have a fulfilling marriage?  Furthermore, who will teach their children? Ah, and the cycle never ends!  Can you see now?  

Let's move on from our feelings to expose the truth.

God hates divorce.  He says so in Malachi 2:16.  "For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that He hateth putting away."

Let's go back to the beginning to see what God intended for marriages:

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother; and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh." Genesis 2:34

"For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and be joined unto his wife, and they two shall become one flesh."  Ephesians 5:31

The above is heavenly math.  1+1=1
It's no wonder the Bible says it's a "great mystery". Ephesians 5:32

You don't have to be a Bible scholar or have years of degrees in theology to understand the Bible plainly.  I am no better than you, or no more spiritual than you.  The Bible was made plainly for all to understand and read.
"For this cause" means there is a reason.  For this reason.  Marriage is the reason. God is saying to leave and forsake your most important relationships to be cleaved (adhered, made one) to your husband. Your blood relationships...your own father and mother.  Does He need to say more?

My husband and I heard our own parent's tell us it was hopeless. That we both needed to just move on from each other.  And from their view, that was reality. Instead of listening, we separated from their advice plus everyone else's and clung to each other.  It wasn't that our parent's meant any harm to us, they were just seeing the end result they all had experienced.  Divorce.

But God, the Great and Wise Father to the fatherless intervened and gave wisdom to my husband to save our marriage.  It is only by grace that I even write this blog. It's by experience of being the ignorant woman who tore her house down by her own hands that I plead with you today.  

Ladies, this is simple.  Do you have that friend or family member you call to "vent" to?  And when you begin to "vent" (degrade) your husband to her, does she agree and even chime in?  Tell you what a looser he is and how you deserve better?  Be assured your husband's friend is telling him the same about you....So who's right?

This is simple.
"Go from the presence of a foolish man when thou perceivest not in him the lips of knowledge."  Proverbs 14:7

That's right.  Advice contrary to God's is not worth listening to. If your friend doesn't give you helpful advice, go away from them. Stop listening. Stop calling them.  

Did you know that God asks you to honor and submit to your husband's authority EVEN if he is NOT a Christian?

"Likewise, ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands, that if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversations of the wives" 1 Peter 3:1

Ladies, God here is telling us that we are so very powerful.  He is saying we can win them over to God even if the word hasn't! Just by our conversations!  That's insanity!

Forget if your husband deserves your honor or respect.  Who said anything about what they deserve?  Here's what it comes down to sweet wife.  You were created by a real God.  There is a real judgement day coming for you.  God is going to ask you if you obeyed him.  What are you going to say?