I heard a friend say with disappointment the other day, "My husband always talks about living his dream but he never moves his feet."
I could probably sit down and tell this woman how she holds the power to her husband's future but she will likely always blame him for being mediocre having removed herself from the equation. She will listen to his sad stories and let it be a reminder of what a looser she married.
Truth be told, us wives are placed on this earth to fulfill a purpose. To be a help meet to our husbands. Some women will reject God's word by never embracing this position because it is too degrading in our minds to be in this kind of subordinate position. Then there will be some who convince themselves that they are living this role even when they aren't. Some of us have willing hearts but will never quite understand what it looks like. The truth about being a help meet is that if God said it, He meant it.
"And the Lord God said it is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him an help meet for him" Genesis 2:18
Here is my question to you, help meet. How are you helping your husband get to his goals in life?
Let's look at the following scenarios:
I know a woman from the city. Her husband's dream is to have a ranch. Her dream is to have a house in the city with a little yard and a career. She really doesn't like the outdoors. A ranch is not her dream in life and she believes if she follows his dreams, she will be unhappy. She thinks turning in her high heels for a 4x4 truck and dirt roads spells disaster. She wonders if she married the wrong man. She feels unhappy in her marriage and thinks if she can just find some personal happiness in life, she can make it through. Her husband talks about his ranch dream to her and as she listens, she examines a looser who will always complain about his 9-5 never moving his feet. She will see an incompetent man wasting his money on man toys to keep himself happy. After feeling much rejection and disappointment, he just stops sharing his thoughts with her. She believes he doesn't have what it takes to run a ranch. Maybe she would have more confidence in him if he would show her something to make her believe in him. He believes if he pursued his ranch dream, he would have to drag her along complaining all the way. He wonders if his dream was stupid to begin with. He finds a hobby away from her keeping himself entertained in the meantime blowing his money on man toys to give himself a little temporary happiness. He has no real dream for the future anymore just living day by day. He wonders if he married the wrong woman because they are not alike. He can't explain the dissatisfaction he feels in life and he doesn't know how to fix it. She can't explain the dissatisfaction she feels in life.
Let's examine this:
I know a woman from the city. Her husband's dream is to have a ranch. Her dream is to have a house in the city with a little yard and a career because she really doesn't like the outdoors. A ranch is not her dream in life but she wants to obey God's word. She knows he can't do it on his own because he has a full time job where he is overworked. She listens to him complain about his job and talk about his dreams and wonders how she can help him get to his full potential in life. The two different dreams can't exist together so she decides to surrender her high heels and her dreams of a clean fancy car for dirt roads and a 4x4 truck. But she doesn't stop there. She wonders why this type of life would appeal to him. She reads books and learns about animals, farming, and gardening. As her knowledge grows, she begins to realize there is wisdom in her husband's dreams. She no longer feels like a martyr. She pursues volunteering herself and her kids helping on farms to get hands on experience. She plans and talks to him about the things she's learned and gives him ideas. As he looks around, he sees his biggest cheerleader and a ranch hand team formed. All he needs now is the ranch. He begins to realize that his dreams are attainable because he has a capable helpmeet. So he works hard to save his money to get that ranch, no longer wasting it on man toys to keep him happy because he can see his goal in sight.
She always thought that reaching her dreams would make her happy. But she obeyed God's word anyway despite herself and He proved to be right all along. She has access to her husbands innermost thoughts which she has longed for always. They are a team of one. She is happy and fulfilled. That career she wanted does not compare to the gratification in life she has now.
Who would've thunk it?
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